Have you ever realized the wants that we have in life? Some carry a heavy emotional attachment and we begin to believe that we have to have it, while others don’t carry the same charge. As you spend time examining the difference what you realize is outstanding. The wants that come with the sparkles and all the bells and whistles are not all that they are cracked up to be. That sense of newness wears off just a few weeks after you made the purchase.
The number of weeks and months that you saved seems to vanish away in discontent after acquiring the ultimate toy. Not only does this temporal possession cause an emptiness it is often followed by a deception that tricks our brains into thinking that there must be something else out there to fill this void.
Have you ever realized that some of the things that you want carry more of an emotional attachment and are weightier than a regular want? Let me explain. Not every want that we have is a filler-want, meaning that the ordinary want is fine but there are certain things that we want that cause us to feel contentment, satisfaction, relief, and fulfillment or just filled up. Other wants, when we get them still leave us empty and unfulfilled and basically wanting more. I realized the difference when my wife and I, both givers, would bump heads trying to give to each other to make one another happy. Time after time we would both be set on giving that nobody was happy until I asked if what we did would fill the person up.
To illustrate my point, if my wife craved a salad from her favorite restaurant and I just wanted to eat then by understanding her want I would choose her place because that would fill her up emotionally and I would still get to eat. Part of the learning process is really becoming clear on what you want. I heard a saying while growing up that
‘You might get what you want but not want what you got.’
Being able to discern these can bring a greater sense of fulfillment to your life, enhance communications at work and home.